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The only beef I have with that is: every year should be a year where feminism moves forward in giving women the same rights as anyone else.
I speak of which I know.
Hitting my 50s wasn't really so bad. I had 4 great children all making their way in life. One now off to university, another one married, one with a sparkle in her eye, and another one battling demons [ REF: gaming].
Rob and I had a conversation about this the other day. It was after we returned home from having dinner with our besties couple friends. It was to celebrate Rob's birthday. He made a statement that they had a big hill to climb ahead. Looking back, he was reflecting on experience. That one minute, you're tripping over kids or kids friends or kids stuff, nonstop nagging
What he said was true though: the next minute they're off and growing up or have grown up, with lives of their own. Their own responsibilities (either significant other or career climb), overshadowing the wants or needs of elder parents. Yes, we're aging, but we're still in our 50s, considered young in the aging age bracket.
It's profound. It's quiet. [Except when Rob is gaming online with some of the kids]. Sometimes I remember to put my music on to drown out his banter that is one-sided. Not in the least curious what the other parties are saying in the least. I've had to grow to be balanced with curiosity.
I've always been an exuberant gal. Ready with a question, so that I can pick up the minuet details of information and audibly digest it by saying it out loud. That is a really big misconception, by the way: people who talk a lot are scattered, indecisive, annoyingly vocal, opinionated and sometimes critical.
Except if you delve deeper into the logic, demystification surfaces. We've often heard that some people are visual, visual learners, etc. What is rarely spoken is that there are others who are auditory. Meaning that in order to absorb information, they need to say it aloud in order for it to be absorbed. Alterna- tively, visually oriented appeal to imagery, videos, graphics, art.
I suppose just words are fine if you are auditory. One doesn't have to read out loud to comprehend what they are reading. That is off the track.
We live in a world of supposition.
We make assumptions, jump to conclusions more now than ever before. By now, the flash of information and visuals is so rapid and fleeting, we don't even realize or recognize what information we're being fed, factual or false.
Feminism is about opinions
That is my take at any rate. An outspoken, opinionated, egotistical male is considered aggressively pursuing a space rocket trajectory into the stratosphere. A woman with such attributes is considered aggressive and a bitch.
Three degrees of interpretation
Having three daughters the ages of 23, 25[next month] and 27[2 months]. I've decided to stop identifying which one is my stepdaughter, inherited by marriage because she's been part of my family for 13 years, with a husband I've known for 13 years, who was born on the 13th and I married on the 13th [scoffing at fate and bad-luck tales].
Each girl has branched out into different areas
One is pursuing the arts in university, the other on a carpet ride in project management and the other torn between the legal mill or the pursuit of an education. The main point, really, being that they each took different paths that reflect their different views on life, education, work, relationships and what they want out of it.
Only one is a steadfast feminist
She is vocal, she is a champion for the underdog and she is learning her voice. The feminism of the millennials is quite different that the first feminist whom one has heard about starting in the 60s, making leaps in the 80s, and protests and speeches abound, fighting for equal rights for women.
There is a long, long way to go.
Like the example I was trying to give on learning or communication styles, we make assumptions and we allow stereotypical thinking of our own.
Wishing you a merry and marvelous holiday season to you and yours
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