Yet that is just what fuels a lot of misconceptions of women in general. There are a lot of funny references to levels of contribution in the world, like:
* domestic goddess
* Mary Tyler Moore famous role or Donna Reed character from the early years of television (which was invented LONG time before I was born)
* Screen sirens like Marilyn Monroe to wannabes like Madonna and Britney Speers (however you spell that since it confused spell checker, back space, highlight, right click on mouse, then click selection from option or suggestion to go on a bigger digging expedition with Google .... )
* Perky, cute role models like Katie Couric (and I'm Canadian eh?), Maria in The Sound of Music character, Samantha in Betwitched, Olivia Newton John in Grease or whomever you would insert as a name that you relate time for this genre.
The less popular, yet more communicated is the aggressive female executive.
Can I confirm you have a valid Canadian securities course?
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On Dec 15, 2017, at 1:52 PM, Jeannette Marshall via CareerBuilder
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Thank you for your response Michelle. I appreciate the reaction :o)
No, I did not state in my CV or anywhere having taken the Canadian Securities Course certification, however, I did confirm that I have Canadian (Secret-past and Reliability-now) Securities Status issued by the Canadian government. To some, that is valuable validation: me, for one, to indicate that I am an honest person.
Intellectually, I have had to go from a newly hired to jump into one of the most critical portfolios by one of my greatest managers who recognized my strength in my ability to parachute in with both feet landing on the ground: exuding confidence and expertise, building trust immediate. I could communicate with executives on a personable level after being kicked out of the nest within only a month of onboarding to attending a festive cocktail..... smoozing with distinguished executives of Canada's most high-powered, rubbing elbows in a small circle where one woman was engaging support and advice from the other women, pretty oblivious to the aggressive antics of single ladies and young manifico males trouncing on former friends to get ahead: I could actually contribute. I had the experience of deciding I would not go back to work fulltime unless my children would have no less care than I, myself, would provide [ aka super woman extraordinaire or Yuppy ] settling with a full time live out nanny to enhance my home, children, spouse, career, employer without any sacrifice other than my pocket book.
But some days don't you just wanna send an email response like this? Instead, we're required to remain refined and poised when all we want to do is scream!
Speaking of screaming
I jump on Quora fairly infrequently but deciding more recently that I really like the experience there. Since I have this thirst for knowledge and pursuit of really interesting things. It allows me to keep the vibe of catching the vibe of what is going on online.
There are a lot of conflicting statements just in the question alone: i.e. best friend and enemy.
The person is not aware of the change in status? We don’t know what was done for the fall from grace, therefore, we cannot understand what takes someone from best friend to evil enemy?
Most highly emotional triggers can be minimized if one examines what the root cause is.
The best advice I would give is suggesting you go for tea, hot chocolate or coffee so that you can find out the former best friend’s defense of the actions that caused her to become your enemy. It would give you a chance to unload what made you so upset. By definition, a best friend is someone who is a trusted confidante - did they betray that trust or do something that crossed them off.
Before you scream at her in class, and you end up looking like the freak, maybe write in a journal on what the offense was, how it made you feel, whether it was an emotional reaction, or if the offense is even realized by the offender.
Granted, there are many things that can happen to cause a falling out. Nobody can help with whether it is justified or not based on your own feelings, nor should anyone.
A “best friend” designation can sometimes be fleeting and evolving continuously. What defines a best friend to you? How many best friends have you had in the past 6 months, year, etc.? What happens to make someone fall out of favor with rapid descent to enemy?
All may be worth consideration and evaluation before you address your feelings and avoid screaming: you screaming will result in poor public image even if it is warranted. Keep that in mind.
And practice the golden rule: treat others as you would wish to be treated yourself. Maybe the former best friend has no idea that they offended your values, morals or beliefs … or did something to make you this passionately emotional.
We all face obstacles and offenses, yet how we react is how we are measured. I guess I’m saying: take a deep breath, write it all down, and consider a face to face in a calm and relaxing atmosphere (not while you’re out at the pub having a drink which makes your inhibitions less guarded) and be the bigger person. Bridge understanding and communicate what they did to make you feel the way you do before you have any emotional outburst that would show you in less favorable light, even if the offense is astronomical.
More questions posed to me
and my responses. An unofficial, non-compensated version of Dear Abby or who is doing that anymore anyhow? (Search and insert information and link] to which I dole out habitually and consistently. My take on motherhood and what my takeaways are from the experience:
Well I want to be a Queen, princess at the very least. With it the responsibility of always being fashionably dressed, impeccable coif, an assistant, a butler, a maid, a financier, at the very least. People curtsy or bowing upon meeting. I would wear gloves to avoid germs, dirt, disease.
I am financially reliable since I can provide my own tiara, having a selection of a few.
I am humble, I try to help others without any monetary reward. Although, treasuring honesty, admit that I salvitate at the thought of compensation from people reading my gripes, quips, tips, trips posts.
I am truly sorry!
I got sidetracked, totally disregarding the question. I apologize. Oopsie.
Go to the Nobel website and determine under which category you feel more aligned with: peace, literature, for examples, then study who have been the most recent recipients that you more closely identify with: can adopt a believable adaptation of anyone of them by providing the skill and talent to stand beside them. Then I’d say:
Go for it!
Who is anyone that could contradict YOU?
YOU are the ONLY person in lives in that house: your brain, body.
I Representing distinguished "Career" mothers
Not the ones who decided to stay home, afforded or forced or otherwise.
That is the stereotypical response to when most people think of what the
term means. Immediately conjuring up the names from the past, deeply
entrenched in our subconscious and belief system.
YOU CAN. When you determine the qualities and define what a “good relationship” means to you. YOU CAN. Continuously keep in touch whether it is instantaneous via technology like SKYPE or FACETIME (Apple(c) at a mutually agreed schedule or scheduled time. YOU CAN: Express how important this “good relationship” is to you at every opportunity, whether verbally, over the telephone, video, web, email, post, handwritten or printed letter, diagrams, cartoons or poems, including the person who is whom you share this “good relationship” with. [I am answering from the female perspective, uniquely my own opinion]. YOU CAN: Be devout, devoted, moral, demonstrative, philosophically and physically showing your commitment to both the relationship and continuing to be worthy of the relationship. Understanding, you reap what you sow. YOU CAN: Control your own behavior regardless of circumstance or circumstances you find yourself in. Being worthy of that ‘good relationship’. YOU CAN: Keep in touch steadfastly and faithfully, divulging periods of blackout due to foreseen or surprise. YOU CAN: Hold the same expectations of yourself as you would the other member in the ‘good relationship’. YOU CAN: Withhold from behavior that you would not have should the object of desire or person within the ‘good relationship’. YOU CAN: Resort to inspiration from scripture or literature or art. Be wary of bad habits or undertakings that can deteriorate the eyes of the ‘good relationship’. YOU CAN: treat your significant being in the ‘good relationship’ no worse than you would your mother, daughter, friend, military team mate. YOU CAN: continue to be the person to whom the ‘good relationship’ was formed from. YOU CAN: go home or wherever said “good relationship” is at every chance you get. YOU CAN: communicate your love, devotion, feelings, missings, musings, fears, desires, goals, ambitions.
YOU CANNOT: control the other person while you are away. They will make their mistakes, face their consequences, commit niceness or nastiness, without you.
First the good news: You don't have to prove bullying in the workplace because your supervisors already know it's going on. Now the bad news: They aren't going to do a damn thing about it because bullying in the workplace is accepted and encouraged as a means of maintaining the status quo.
Sadly, this is the same reason why bullying is tolerated in nearly any and all social structures in our society.
Human beings are a pack animal, and we have innate biological drive to maintain a sense of social order wherever we go. This desire likely traces back to our primitive caveman days, when people lived in tribes. In a tribal environment, everyone has a place or a rank, and this system is reinforced with a shit-rolls-downhill pecking order.
The belief is that picking on those beneath you in the pecking order helps maintain this system of hierarchy. Everyone knows their place and does what they're supposed to do. Thus the "machine" of the tribe continues to work and everyone in the tribe reaps the benefits that tribal living provides - sustenance, safety and protection from outside threats, shelter, etc.
While we might be modern humans, we still live in a tribal society. We just don't recognize it as such. As a human being in today's society, you live in several tribes from your city, state, and country. Your workplace is one of them, and the bullying and pecking order are simply part of what the bosses believe "needs to be done" to keep order.
Don't believe me? Try following the advice that others have given you.
Try to document the bullying. You can write it down, record it on tape, and even videotape these incidents. When you go to management or human resources to report that someone above you is bullying you, you'll be the one who's seen as the problem. Chances are, you'll likely be fired.
Because if you're being bullied at work, chances are good that you're a low-ranking member of your company's hierarchy. Do you really think the bosses are going to take your word over that of someone with a higher rank? Those people are responsible for carrying out the boss's orders, and with that comes a certain amount of trust and expectations.
You, however, are replaceable.
Chances are, the higher ups won't believe you when you try to tell them that you're being bullied by your superior. And it's not like the person doing the bullying is going to admit it. Chances are, he/she will deny it and you'll end up looking like the crazy one. In the end, it's not worth it.
If the bullying is bad, find another job and leave. If you're working 40 hours a week, you'll spend close to 2,000 hours with your coworkers. It's better to find a place that makes this time well spent. Find another job and move on. You always can tell the world about what the bullying that went on when you review your former workplace on Glassdoor or similar sites.
Why is bullying in the workplace so common? Why is it usually the bully who gets the support from management?
It's because bullies are manipulative, social cowards. They manipulate and convince people into thinking that they're the "right" kind of people set for their jobs or career in order to gain suppor...(more)
Just like you handle any other bully at work: by being professional and not stooping to their level. If you can ignore the behavior, start there. If the situation makes this not possible and you can't ignore it, you stand up to him/her, in person, not via email, and not in front of other people. Be professional, do not raise your voice, calmly make the bully understand you won't tolerate being bullied. If the behavior continues, report it
His/her sexual orientation and whether it is public or in the closet, should have nothing to do with your approach to stopping the bully. If you use his/her sexual orientation as a weapon (for example, "outing" the person, you will be the bully.
First of all you need to talk to the bully and ask him/her to treat you with respect.If it doesn't work, your office should have rules about harassment in the workplace.You can make use of it to tackle the issue of harassment.If nothing works, hire a lawyer and take up your case. In our company we were given Workplace Bullying Training Program to prevent such issues.Now a days most companies are providing such training as bullying affects the productivity of employees.