A queen of advice ...

December 19, 2017
Sir BUDDY:  My sidekick and assistant 
I wrote this a number of years ago.

Thankfully, I can capture these thoughts and moods as they are dispersed into the universe, hoping optimistically, it can help others.

My one daughter told me once:  some of her friends, read my blog for shits & giggles when they're drunk.

I really haven't imparted that much advice over the years, if anything, sharing that as you enter your 50s, you are charting a new course in life.  No differently than the cliff to leap beyond becomes a metaphor for being at the tip toe point  before you jump :: into a relationship, a new job, a difficult decision, financial security.

I haven't written on this blog for quite some time:  I've been dabbling (cheating on this blog) with creating my own domain website - more than once with different providers (I will write about later), sidestepping to Wordpress (which turned out to be less blogger friendly than anticipated, created a great, small tribe; also alarmed people that maybe I was going to break because of my ramblings .... who not only ditched my blog domain because I couldn't afford the renewal fee.  Well, they can talk to @HostPapa who automatically withdrew funds from my credit card without my permission and during transition to a new credit card number -- the sum of over $400 and ignored my request for a refund.  VISA was absolving itself from the situation, although they had approved the transaction and processed it between the time I had reported the card missing and a new one issued.

At the optioneerJM blog on Wordpress, I was focussed a lot on demographics and numbers:  something that I'm keen on.  Then, scrambled in, were tales of escapades with #Millennial children, how parenting evolves as both you and your child ages to earn their "adulting" medal.

GOOGLE always seems to be tried and true, completely faithful and in tune with who its "customers" are:  the loyal, the influential, the authenticity established over a long waltz of learning, for both of us, really, because my stats there are incredible.  Besides Pinterest, the analytics and insights from Google is still the best in the world.  I can't blame them for wanting to create a revenue stream from all those morsels of data, stored in the cloud - REALLY AHEAD of its time.

On the contrary, Twitter is flexing its muscle and really showing the universe its power and ability to skew the information that lands in our "Trending" sidebar.  

Not only is it "purging" inactive accounts, as a blank statement, Twitter has become vigilantly turfing IDs for abusing "The Rules".

Twitter may have a lot of insights, control and users.  However, they have not been able to monetize it effectively.  Like Google has.

Twitter is a young kid having a temper tantrum after taking critiques (I'm guessing - I will have to go wander and fact-check to see if such a event has occurred) by shareholders (how many? ) and Price per share (TBD) as of today, December 18, 2019.

One thing I have arrived to the conclusion of:  

The definition of  social networking sites that help me become better, narrow my audience, attract high value clicks, into a Global leader in clicks -- this is being shared actively on @Twitter and @LinkedIn ::

LinkedIn:  We've grown together since I began there 12 years ago, then 10 years ago 2020 I went on to Twitter.  

Twitter:  Should be sued for permanently suspending @optioneerJM that is the only way this UPSTART will learn that they cannot mess with people's livelihood, or path to make income associated with the identity that they deleted.  No warning, no conversation, no appeal, no listening by anyone.

Facebook:  Has my most loyal following of all the social sites:  where I have the most clicks, likes, comments, follow through, links to with everything all connecting.

Instagram:  As I evolve my artistic portrayals of eccentric people, Instagram has attracted a lot of new followers with artistic creative inclination:  photographers, artists, marketers, etc.

Twitter:  IS NOT graphic friendly.  In the way of displaying the images more largely with their offending way of sidebars that they try to distract users from examining great innovation.

Twitter:  HAS NOT learned how the disruption of events, knowingly or accidentally become known:  Facebook lost a lot of users as repercussions unfold, still to this day.  

When these baby companies, they tend to ignore others' failures or business lessons.  It always looks from my vantage point:  they think they know it all.

As soon as someone thinks that they are an expert, it indicates to me that they've stopped learning.  That is the greatest disservice to the online world, real versus fake, data or cloud or privacy?

Google has remained true and strong.  If not always transparent:  the media didn't implode with imparting advice or criticism when they cancelled Google Plus G+ -- in my opinion the most visually friendly setting that allowed the artist to also write more about what they were imagining or how they came about creating that piece of art?  Maybe take your own advice, Jeannette?

I've said that a lot lately to my youngest.  AKA the daughter from hell when she was 14-15 and a gem now that she's 25.

My kids have become REALLY uncomfortable and vocal about me sharing their photo or naming them.

Another aspect of me and them changing simultaneously.  As we all age, build wisdom, we are influenced by life events - ones which we can control and those which we cannot.  Building understanding on which is which (and not be a Bitch about it).  That is for all of us.  

By treating each other with kindness but firstly empathy:  we can become compassionate towards each other.

I've seen my eldest daughter evolve beautifully:  being invited to their home to celebrate her dad's birthday was spellbinding:  seeing the complete family unit with a husband, a son, and the first grandson to her ailing father.  It makes me choke up.

TIDBIT:  If you want to have a real conversation with your Millennial daughter:  DON'T CHOKE UP with emotions or let the waterworks flow (proof:  her head will go down and thumbs scroll on her smartphone BEFORE she says quite strongly:  "If you cry, I will leave."

SINCE Wordpress and Twitter are being dicks, I will continue to grace their sites because there is good stuff there.

THE WISDOM I want to impart as this decade comes to a close:  get online to navigate and control your messaging as of NOW.  You can control what you post or like or share:  flex those mouse-muscles and get ready.

As always, I will continue to meandering about with my thoughts on here.  For the drunk friends and the sober ones, those battling afflictions or addictions, I'll be here.

All the best for the holidays of 2019 and continue with hope for the best in store for 2020!


Think about this quote I tweeted on https://twitter.com/postingfromedge :

 #ThoughtOfTheDay "There is an expiry date for blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction. The moment you are old enough to take the wheel, the responsibility lies with you."~J.K. Rowling #inspirational @JKRowling >no identifiable @Twitter? art by moi (c)*^*jm