Yes, you got it :: today is Friday the 13th and you had better not have been belly aching about bad luck, this or that. Have a listen to this swan song that came out in 1980 from the Talking Heads that pokes fun and demystifies complaining and inspires us to get a move on if we want what we want:
Once in a lifetime Is pretty startling. It is a resonating message that today, May 13, 2016, is once in a lifetime. You will not have another chance to relive it. So make it worth a story worth telling.
I was fiddling around with my camera app on my laptop and decided to ignore it and just get down to writing, darn it.
I am all showered and made up to head out and meet my husband as we drop our inherited car off to have new tires put on.
Inherited? Well, it's part of the 50s inheritance plan :: It's when you cosign a car loan and your daughter decides to head out to make her mark in the world, leaving you with the loan so you start driving it. Now you may get the reason why I have the gadget to the right with cars called "Pump this ride". It is my expressive rebellion on taking responsibility over want. I realized that I really don't post many pictures of myself so I did a couple of selfies to show that I'm not short on attitude, just in height. My husband is already texting me to see if I've left - we're meeting in an hour and 15 for darn's sake - my way of gaining control over my life is being late more often than not. That's from a gal who was meticulous about being on time, so much so that I was always 20 minutes early for everything and had to fight the boredom of waiting. So I'll write about the favorite makeup used today later on. The texts are coming speedily and if I want to meet my husband after work again, I'd better disprove his "always late" label for me (which wouldn't be far from the truth). Remember to make today, your BEST day ever!! xo
I was having this conversation with my sister the other day. Heaven help me if I even remember what our train of thought may have been... do you have a sister that you really relate to even though your worlds may seem so far apart?
STOP and have a listen, or play while you read on through My sister is as opposite of me as the world could even imagine:
she was born in the autumn and I in the Spring
we saw our growing up differently: she full of pain; me full of belief
while I can come across gregarious she could come across as calm and reasoning
our relationships, kids, friends are friends of each other too - they find it easier to like the other
you enjoy shopping together and would never imagine skydiving - although one would have if she thought about it while the other wouldn't have dared (me).
you both reach for the same things even if our home, our taste, would seemingly be different
Sidetracked again. Apologies ... then what the heck do you expect of me by now? It appears as though I have writing AHSD. Thank goodness not in real life: I can be excruciatingly organized and detailed while consciously trying not to be so the opposite is perceived.
This is what the conversation was about: the one that got away. How bizarre eh?
Two sisters of 18 months apart in their fifties having an absurd reminiscence. Opposite memories, no doubt. She talked and I listened for a change. Yeh, not a regular occurrence by any means.
My conscious memory a week later pops this into my head as I'm driving home. I know I listened carefully. I am really trying to be a better listener, which is not a natural state.
She talked about this boy that she really liked when she had run away from home. As much as she seemed like a radical from candy-coated pink 15-year-old eyes, I seem more like a rebel now that I've hit my 50s.
The memory went on in the manner that this sort does: what would have or could have happened if she had not broken his heart and stayed with him.
Astonishing! The responsible, loving, caring mother, daughter, sister or aunt, was actually rewinding life to check back and check in to what she thought she'd be doing once she hit her 50s.
STOP and have a listen, or play while you read on through
So many wondrous movies are about going back in time, less about heading into the future. It must be a creative dream, to take a situation and from the current state, to what had happened, and how things may have gone differently. I now realize that the surprise in store for the reader or viewer, is will the hero or heroine return to the current state much differently or very much the same with differences.
That is such a creative morsel of temptation. Take a situation or moment in your life, and fast rewind and slowly play forward. Taking the audience on a ride that even you may not predict. Will you return differently or much the same with differences ...
What do I mean? My sister ... was doing that in a sense. She was wondering if she had stayed with that very nice boy, not broken his heart, and stayed together. She wasn't evaluating it, nor was she suggesting that she was disatisfied with how things turned out.
It was a simple, honest meandering .... My sister was highlighting what we go through when we hit or 40s and 50s. We really aren't all that different than we were in our teens. The ride we'd be on at the time would result in whether we are currently on the ride of our lives, or too conservative. Or, some of us would recall that maybe they could have been a little bit braver or self-confident at our teens. Others of us blossom as life and the years make us milder, more content. While others of us become restless and want to step out.
What would your comfort zone and would you have done things differently then and end up different somehow?
I am torn between staying the same or being more carefree. How does one's homelife be the same and yet be reacted far apart?
I couldn't have imagined things getting any worse so I would madly try to be an over-achiever. Perhaps some experts would say that was because I was a fighter and did whatever it would take to have a life that would erase anything. My sister may say that she was acting it out.
Deal with it now is what most would applaud. Get it out of your system so you can grow up and get on with life. In a measured, grounded, spiritual way.
If you bottle it up you may never know when it will sprout. Maybe that is what they mean by mid-life crisis? When it hits or skips over anyone, would be a multi-zillion market.
Many marketers, services or products are divided into two groups:
ONE: Going through mid-life crisis.
TWO: Not.
Are you meandering about the one who got away? Examine whether you think things would have turned out differently, or would have it made a difference.
Create a balance between the two: Don't pine for what may have been. Instead, create the life now that would be a different you .... or the same you with a little change.
